Really?
So yesterday the inevitable thing that I have been dreading for the past 13 months finally happened. We had to make contact with the mother in law. It started out innocently enough, we got invited to Heather's baptism in the river and wanted to go show our support because they were really great with Averie's baptism. So A and I went to the 9:33 service with Nana and Grandaddy and Eli went to work then we met back at home to head up to the church. We got there sorta on time, it was a little after 12:15 and nobody was there yet so we rode around Rosman until Matt called and said it would be after 1 before they got there so we rode around some more and Averie got a good nap in. So then we headed back to the church and as we are pulling in Matt and Heather pull in with her behind then. I got really angry for a second and said something along the lines of "That b**** isn't holding my baby." That anger lasted for all of about 30 seconds then subsided and was replaced by pity because it was very clear I wouldn't have to worry about her wanting to hold my baby. We got Averie out of the car and if I do say so myself, she looked sooo flipping cute in her little black and white gingham dress and matching hat and socks that look like black mary janes. But the woman didn't even look at her grandchild. Not even like a glance. She got out of her car and immediatley turned around with her back to us and walked toward the picnic shelter. Then as we were sitting down eating she never even acknowledged that there was a baby at our table. So, it was pretty clear how she feels about her first and only grandchild.
Now here is my commentary on it: What happened yesterday was great. It was the first time in a very long time that I feel at peace about the whole situation. It was like seeing her and seeing how cold hearted and uncaring she could be towards my beautiful, innocent angel baby really brought home what kind of a person she is. After my initial anger (which I think was kind of a shock reaction to the fact that she was there and I was so unprepared for it) went away I just really felt sorry for her. I think that Eli and I are pretty good people and we definitely have the sweetest, most precious, fun baby in the world and that miserable little woman has chosen to have no part in our lives. There are times I wish Averie had another grandmother to spoil her and love on her but I understand fully that she wouldn't ever be that kind of grandmother anyway. She was never like that as a mother, so she obviously doesn't have that capability. And I don't think she will ever want for anything as long as Nana and Grandaddy are around! Usually I can tell Eli gets kinda down after any interaction with her but it was like after yesterday we are just soooo done with it. The sad thing is that we really don't have any idea what this is all about. There have been situations in the past that caused conflict, but we don't really know what it was exactly that caused her to hate both of us so much. And that is fine, she is entitled to feel the way she does. She just has no idea what she is missing by continuing to feel that way.
I think that yesterday really was a sort of closure for us and we are no longer left wondering about all those what ifs. After I get all my feelings out through this, I really don't want to waste another second of my life thinking about her. And I don't think I will - I've got something way better to occupy my thoughts :)
Now here is my commentary on it: What happened yesterday was great. It was the first time in a very long time that I feel at peace about the whole situation. It was like seeing her and seeing how cold hearted and uncaring she could be towards my beautiful, innocent angel baby really brought home what kind of a person she is. After my initial anger (which I think was kind of a shock reaction to the fact that she was there and I was so unprepared for it) went away I just really felt sorry for her. I think that Eli and I are pretty good people and we definitely have the sweetest, most precious, fun baby in the world and that miserable little woman has chosen to have no part in our lives. There are times I wish Averie had another grandmother to spoil her and love on her but I understand fully that she wouldn't ever be that kind of grandmother anyway. She was never like that as a mother, so she obviously doesn't have that capability. And I don't think she will ever want for anything as long as Nana and Grandaddy are around! Usually I can tell Eli gets kinda down after any interaction with her but it was like after yesterday we are just soooo done with it. The sad thing is that we really don't have any idea what this is all about. There have been situations in the past that caused conflict, but we don't really know what it was exactly that caused her to hate both of us so much. And that is fine, she is entitled to feel the way she does. She just has no idea what she is missing by continuing to feel that way.
I think that yesterday really was a sort of closure for us and we are no longer left wondering about all those what ifs. After I get all my feelings out through this, I really don't want to waste another second of my life thinking about her. And I don't think I will - I've got something way better to occupy my thoughts :)
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